Marriage Tip of the Week pt1

A lot of people underestimate the importance of communication in their marriage.  When two people have been together for a great length of time so much is taken for granted.  We tend to think that our spouse should know what we are thinking or what we want.  While it may be true that your spouse know what’s on your mind, there is no reason you should believe that they do.  So many marital issues can be resolved with simple communication.

Let me give you an example. You and your spouse have a free night to spend together. You want to go to the movies. You don’t really know what your spouse wants to so you ask. Your spouse responds with “Whatever you want to do is fine with me.” So you go to the movies. Later on you find that your spouse really wanted to go to dinner. I know your first reaction is that it’s not your fault that he/she didn’t speak up. But if you were able to communicate properly you most likely could have had an evening where both of you were satisfied.

Instead of looking at the previous scenario like “oh well” you should look deeper into the root of the issue. Why didn’t your spouse tell you they wanted to go to dinner? It’s most likely because your spouse feels that you don’t listen to them anyway. This should never be your spouses’ mindset. If this is so, then you need to work on your communication skills right away. Start by reading the article How To Improve Communication In Your Marriage. In this article you will find 5 steps learning how to effectively communicate with your spouse.

Communication is the first step to improving your marriage. If you feel that you need more than just an article on how to improve your communication, then I suggest Free Marriage Counseling first. Before you spend money on marriage counseling try this first. Marriage Counseling is good to do, but if it doesn’t work for you, then an added expense can cause more harm than good. I have nothing against marriage counseling. I actually encourage it.

⁴"Haven't you read," he replied, "that at the beginning the Creator 'made them male and female, ⁵and said, 'For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh? ⁶So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate."

Matthew 19:4-6 (NIV)